Stay at Home Mom vs. A Working Mom: Can the Two Coexist?
Stay at home vs. a working mom? Hmmm..
I know that there are some moms out there that actually plan this aspect of life before arrival of the kid. Welp, not all of us think about what comes next because we’re just trying to get through the “Oh shit, I’m pregnant!” phase!
My husband and I have three children and only one of them was planned! We thank God for each of them because they have genuinely changed our lives for the better.
It only took my first born to change my thinking on how I wanted to “mom”.
You’ll notice that I use mom as a verb throughout this post because although a mom is who you are; it’s still most definitely something you do!
I made the decision to be a stay at home mom after I realized that I had missed so much of first borns life. I missed his first steps, first word, first potty! Now, I had an amazing support system between my mom and my mother in law. They made an amazing team and I don’t know what I would have done without them when Carter was young.
It wasn’t until he was in about 5th grade that I realized he needed me more than I thought. He had been diagnosed with ADHD, and was having some issues with anxiety. School was tough for him.
Coincidentally, it was tough for me too as a teacher! I realized that what I thought I’d be doing for the rest of my life, no longer made me happy.
It was a no brainer. I needed to be home with my son, but I also had to figure out a way to generate an income.
Here are the top two things to consider before becoming a stay at home mom:
1. Do I still need to provide an income for my family?
2. Will my kids be home with me at all times?
If you know that you’ll need to provide an income for your family. I have two proven ways that you can absolutely do that!
Now, the second is completely up to you! I know moms who have their kids go to daycare part time just so they can work or have some “me time.” Some moms have a great support system and may have a grandparent come over to watch the kids for a few hours.
Other moms like myself, work before the kids wake up and I homeschool my oldest, so my kids are with me all day.
You have to make a decision that is best for you and your family!
There is absolutely no shame in being a mom who works outside the home.
There was a time when you were either a working mom or a stay at home mom, with no thought of earning an income.
This has changed so much in the last ten years and now it is very possible to be a stay at home mom and earn a substantial income.
So, if you are a mom who works outside of the home; you now have another option!
I have been a working stay at home mom for the past two years! My journey has had it’s fair share of ups and downs.
When I first began staying home I was working as an online English teacher with Vipkid. Thank God we had my husbands income to fall back on because things did not take off the way that I thought that they would.
Most people will tell you that it takes about 90 days gain a full schedule with Vipkid. It’s a parents choose platform (meaning parents choose the teacher), so you must market yourself through videos and pictures and teacher biography. You are competing with thousands of other teachers.
90 days came and went and my schedule still had lots of holes I needed filled.
Now by this time I had become a bit of an online ESL junkie! I had joined a bunch of Online ESL groups on Facebook, in hopes of learning more about the industry.
These groups often have teachers providing testimonials about their experiences with different Online ESL companies. You can also see which companies are hiring, and even find tons of mentors to help you through the hiring process.
I started to notice a trend of teachers working for more than one company and filling in the gaps in their schedule. That’s when I decided to take a look at Magic Ears.
The biggest and best difference with Magic Ears, is that the classes are booked for you by a computer system! No more marketing myself to parents and praying they choose me!
Fast foward a year later and I’m very happy that I decided not to place all my eggs in one basket!
Working on generating the income I needed wasn’t my only issue. I had two infants that needed me constantly and 12 year old that I was going to homeschool, and I had no clue where to begin!
I again turned to Facebook and joined a few homeschool mom groups. They were all so very helpful in steering me towards programs like Discovery K12. Discovery K12 has made homeschool a breeze! Well, my child hasn’t made it easy but that’s a story for another post! Did I mention Discovery K12 is a free homeschool program! No brainer!
Now that that was handled, I needed a schedule for the tiny twins (they are 13 months apart, but I swear it’s like having twins). Where did I turn you ask? Nope, not Facebook this time! This time I turned to YouTube! I was looking to learn how to plan my day. Oh my, was I shocked to learn that planning was a legit therapeutic hobby! I watched tons of videos (because there’s a science to this trust me), and immediately purchased a planner.
Having a planner is essential to successfully working and momming!
I always recommend an Erin Condren Life Planner! An Erin Condren Life Planner is #plannergoalsformoms
I start of every week with a super cute layout and I make a list on Monday of what I’d like to get accomplished for the week. Then as each day ends, I mark through the things I’ve done, and the things I haven’t completed get moved to the next day.
I’ve come to realize that things may not get done as fast as I want them to, but they will get done!
So, stay at home mom vs. A working mom: can the two coexist? The answer is……absolutely! Will it take some time and planning? Yes. Will it be easy? No. Will it be worth it? You bet your ass it will!
Thanks for hanging our with me today Shugs! Please leave any comments or questions you may have below! 🥰
Kisha L. Russell